25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. — Ephesians 5:25-33
Husbands, are you an Ephesians 5 husband?
It is clear that God intends that our wives be our top priority in ministry, and that we care for our wives even as Christ cares for us, His Church. This is no small order!
In our walk with Christ, we are to demonstrate these characteristics toward everyone, but for the Ephesians 5 husband, these ought to apply to our wives double:
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. — Galatians 5:22, 23
12 Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. 15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. — Colossians 3:12-15
I sincerely believe that I am to fulfill my Lord’s will for me toward my wife first, then to the rest of the rest of the Church, then to the world. If I do not have these priorities in their proper order, I believe that my entire walk with my Lord suffers.
I do not claim perfection in this, far from it! But it is what I strive for, and a constant topic of prayer as I make my way through each day.
Single men, is this how you treat that special lady in your life? If not, then please ask yourself, am I ready for marriage?
Single ladies, is this how that special man in your life is treating you? If not, then please ask yourself, is this the man God intends for me to marry?